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Richard Porter was one of the most criticised faces on 90 Day Fiancé UK in 2022. He went on trying to be the comedian and came out of it hated by millions. For years afterwards he was foggy, isolated, and coping well enough that nobody asked.

What got him moving again was his body, not his head. He is now a certified somatic bodywork facilitator, and on 25 September 2026 he published Unfrozen: The 90-Day Reset for Men, a men’s mental health training plan. It takes ten minutes a day, and it is built for men who aren’t ready to talk yet, and for men who have talked plenty and want something they can feel in their body too.

90 Day Fiancé UK launched on discovery+ in August 2022. One line from Richard, a piece of lads’ banter he had seen printed on T-shirts, became the moment viewers remembered. The reaction came from everywhere: Twitter, Facebook, Instagram fan pages, Reddit threads, Mumsnet and entertainment websites, where he was called crass, sexist and misogynistic.

Most reality TV storms blow over in a few weeks. Richard’s kept coming back. The series went on to TLC in other countries, then to Really on Freeview, and then to TLC UK. Each new channel brought a new audience, and each new audience started the comments all over again. The hate arrived in waves for more than four years.

For most of that time, Richard shut himself away. Friends drifted, invitations stopped, and he kept his world small. On the outside he was coping. Behind it, he was frozen.

The show’s welfare support covered six counselling sessions. Richard kept going and has now had 32, paying for the other 26 himself. Counselling helped him understand what had happened to him. His body was what finally got him moving: breathwork and bodywork sessions, often as the only man in the room, and then 300 hours of training to become a facilitator. That is where, after years of waiting for the storm to pass, he began to feel like himself again.

Richard Porter, 46, runs Unfrozen, small-group bodywork sessions with breath built in, across Preston, South Ribble, Chorley and online. He is a certified somatic bodywork facilitator, trained for 300 hours over eight months in trauma-informed, body-led work, after thirty years hosting events.

He does not diagnose or treat, and his work sits alongside therapy, not instead of it. He has been a guest on BBC Radio Lancashire and on heat’s Reality Bites for discovery+ with Fleur East and Sam Thompson, and is comfortable live, in the studio or remotely.

• Hated by millions. What public shame does to a man, and what he did next.
• Reality TV aftercare. Six counselling sessions from the show, 32 in total, and what cast members need once the cameras leave.
• Training for your head. Why men who happily follow a gym programme take to a men’s mental health training plan.
• Banter as armour. How humour kept everyone at arm’s length, and what changed when he dropped it.
• Accelerator down, handbrake on. Why so many men look fine from the outside and feel frozen behind it.
• The body alongside talking. Why some men aren’t ready to talk yet, and others have talked for years and still feel stuck.
• The only man in the room. What he learned as the lone man in women-led sessions.
• A one-minute breathing reset, live. Something your audience can do with him on air.

“I went on that show trying to be the comedian. Back then, banter was how I handled everything. It kept people at arm’s length, and me too.”

“A lot of men are living with the accelerator flat down and the handbrake fully on: functioning perfectly from the outside and absent behind it.”

“The exhaustion isn’t from the doing. It’s from the holding.”

“Talking can make you fluent in your own story. It gets it into words. This is about getting it out of your body.”

“Every man is already whole. We just need to clear the noise out of the head to get you back into your body.”

“I’m not a guru, and I’m still under construction. Healing isn’t mine to give. My measure of success is people needing me less, not more.”

All quotes are free to use with attribution to Richard Porter, Unfrozen.

• Unfrozen: The 90-Day Reset for Men: A Mental Health Training Plan and Guided Journal
• Paperback, 282 pages, £9.99, published 25 September 2026
• Amazon UK only. ISBN 979-8176907063
• Two pages a day, about ten minutes: a check-in, a short read, one breath, body or movement practice, one small action and tonight’s win
• Six phases over ninety days, with a safety page of UK helplines and support for drink, drugs and gambling

Free to use in coverage of Richard or the book. Credit: Unfrozen. Higher-resolution files and more photos are available on request.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: 29 September 2026

"Hated by millions": Preston's 90 Day Fiancé UK star launches a 10-minute-a-day men's mental health training plan

Richard Porter's book, Unfrozen: The 90-Day Reset for Men, comes out days before World Mental Health Day

A Preston man who became one of the most criticised cast members of 90 Day Fiancé UK has turned the fallout into a men's mental health training plan.

Richard Porter, 46, appeared on the discovery+ series in 2022. Viewers reacted strongly to comments he made on screen, and he says he came out of it "hated by millions". People distanced themselves, and he describes the years that followed as being frozen: "foggy, isolated, and coping well enough that nobody asked". Looking back on the show, he said: "I went on that show trying to be the comedian. Back then, banter was how I handled everything. It kept people at arm's length, and me too. Learning to drop that is a big part of what this book is about."

The hate returned in waves for more than four years, as the series reached new audiences on TLC abroad, on Really on Freeview and on TLC UK. The show's welfare support covered six counselling sessions. Richard has now had 32, paying for the rest himself.

After 30 years hosting events, Richard knew how to read a room, but not how to be the person the room was talking about. He started saying yes to anything that might help, and often found himself the only man in women-led breathwork and body-based sessions. The practices got him moving again, and he went on to complete 300 hours of training over eight months to qualify as a somatic bodywork facilitator, working with the body and breath together.

His book, Unfrozen: The 90-Day Reset for Men, is available on Amazon UK from 29 September, priced £9.99. It is a men's mental health training plan and guided journal, written for men who aren't ready to talk yet, and for men who have talked plenty and want something they can feel in their body too. Each day takes about ten minutes over two pages: a check-in, a short read, one breath, body or movement practice, one small action and "tonight's win". The ninety days run in six phases. The book also includes a safety page with UK helplines, plus warning signs and sources of support for drink, drugs and gambling.

Richard said: "I'm not writing any of this from the outside. A lot of men are living with the accelerator flat down and the handbrake fully on: functioning perfectly from the outside and absent behind it. The exhaustion isn't from the doing. It's from the holding. The calm, the confidence and the clear head you had at your best haven't gone anywhere. Breath and movement tell the body it's safe to stand down, and once it does, those parts of you come back to the surface on their own. Ten minutes a day is enough to start feeling like yourself again."

He is clear that the book works alongside talking, not instead of it. "Talking can make you fluent in your own story. It gets it into words. This is about getting it out of your body. Plenty of the men I work with are in therapy and finding it useful."

On his role, he added: "I'm not a guru, and I'm still under construction. Healing isn't mine to give. Every man is already whole. We just need to clear the noise out of the head to get you back into your body. My measure of success is people needing me less, not more."

Suicide is around three times more common among men than women in England and Wales (House of Commons Library), and the Office for National Statistics reports the highest rate among men aged 50 to 54.

The launch comes ahead of World Mental Health Day on 10 October, whose 2026 theme is "Lived experiences heard: real voices, real change".

Reflecting on the show, he said: "Being publicly disliked taught me more about shame than anything else in my life. If one man picks this book up because he recognises the guy off the telly, and it gets him through a hard week, then all of that was worth something."

Richard is available for interviews in the North West or remotely, and can demonstrate a one-minute breathing reset live on air.

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